I have always loved being in charge. I’m wired that way. I freak out when it appears as though things are out of my control. I always feel I need to constantly make decisons and often times, the urgency that comes with this feeling is self-imposed. Though at other times, the need to choose is very legitimate. Whether to choose for myself what to do or for someone else who depends on me.
From time to time, many life altering choices stare us in the face. Having options isn’t always a great thing. Sometimes, being spoilt for choice is what it is, spoilt and it’s not always an advantage.
When life presents multiple scenarios, we’re not always able to see the complete picture standing in one spot. Sometimes what we see standing up are in a million ways different from what is visible siting down and in some complicated scenarios, we do not always have the luxury of time to critically access what our options are.
Nevertheless, one thing we must strive to do is make choices based on love and happiness.
This doesn’t guarantee that you’ll always be making the right call because sometimes you will be wrong. If you find out that your choice is the wrong one, don’t second guess yourself in the future. Your decisions are not you. Take comfort in the fact that you did what you believed was best under the circumstances using the information you had. If life proved that you made the right call, teach the lessons learned to the next person.
About making relationship choices…
Everyone should define what their dealbreakers are. These defined parameters must hinge on core values.
Chemistry is never enough. The pain you feel in the moment you let go of something or someone that’s not serving your life’s purpose will attempt to screw your mind till you begin to think that you’re probably wrong for letting go. It’s a lie. There are 7 billion people on the planet. You’ll always find someone else who’ll bring same or more intensity to your love life if you stand your ground and don’t compromise on the things that are important to you.
For you my friend who is stranded in the valley of decision, I pray that light from within will illuminate your path and your heart will know to choose and do right.
Just because you have good instincts doesn’t mean you do not make bad decisions.
Some of us are like Jacob, the proverbial bad boy with a good God. A good God who loves him infinitely all the same. Jacob wrestled all night with God. Note that the bible didn’t say God wrestled with Jacob. It was Jacob who questioned and fought the will of God till God had to remove his support structure by dislocating his hips. Jacob was the fraudster, the liar, the cheat even his name meant deceiver. Yet in the midst of all his madness, God reached out to him, gave him a new name – Israel – though not without removing every thing else that gave him balance. That is why I can never be high-minded or self righteous because I know where he brought me from. My limping is my badge of survival, the proof of his discipline and love. I made it but not without a brutal reminder of how his love rescued me. I now acknowledge how much I need him and rest on him daily to carry me. I don’t fight his purpose any more. Now I embrace it because it keeps me steady, after all, my hip is out of joint. On Christ the solid rock I stand and every other ground is sinking sand. I know no man except Christ crucified for we have no confidence in the flesh.
Don’t criticise me when I shout or dance or refuse to condemn another person. I am just humbled by the grace and mercy that brought me too this far.
If you have any struggle today, emotional, material, marital or even character failures, don’t worry, only trust in God because like Jacob the sun will rise upon you and this too shall pass. Samson you did wrong and failed to keep the covenant, yet if you trust and look up to God, your hair will grow again. Don’t listen to men who want to bury you but God who already planted you.
God’s love is inexhaustible.